I’m Good: Not Because Everything Is Okay

I am so happy to support one of my fellow bloggers and friends Jenee Darden (Cocoa Fly) with a new campaign she is working on I’m Good.  I’m Good is a blog campaign that encourages people to take care of their emotional and mental health, as well as their wellness. It’s also a celebration of those who are working to, or have, overcome obstacles to wellness through support from family, friends, peers, loved ones and the community.

Mental health is a topic that is not often discussed but is important to all of our health and well-being.  It is important to take out time for you.  If you or a family member has a mental health challenge, reach out for support and get access to information.  I went through one of the most traumatic experiences in my life 4 years ago.  Instead of isolating myself, I shared my story with those I was comfortable with sharing.  During that time, I also discovered that music and writing were great stress relievers/outlets for me.  I share my story often and show my scars proudly.  I wasn’t always “good” and I am not ashamed to admit that truth.

I’m Good, not because everything is okay and going the way I would like it to but because I have a support system that listens, encourages and keeps me uplifted.  I also know when I have reached my limit and who I can reach out to.  I’m Good because I am making  the best decisions for my children and I, putting our needs first.

If you would like to get involved with the I’m Good Campaign, there are plenty of ways to do so:

Write a blog post. About 500 words will do, but feel free to make it shorter or longer.

Record a video or podcast. Tell us your story or someone else’s.

Post art and photos online. Express yourself through a visual medium.

Post the I’m Good campaign badge on your website. Show your participation in the movement and inspire others to follow.

Share. Post your work and re-post others’ works on social networks. When you post on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, use the hashtag #imgood.

For more information visit the official I’m Good website

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

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Double Twist & Double Dutch

Natural N SassyLas Vegas it’s that time of year again for the natural hair community to come together, share hair tips, products and show off our curls.  Natural & Sassy Natural Hair Group presents: Double Twist & Double Dutch on May 3, 2014 at Craig P. Kenny & Associates located at 501 S. 8th Street, 4th Floor, Las Vegas, NV 89101 from 3:00pm to 6:30pm.  See flyer for more details and be sure to RSVP.

 

Natural & Sassy Natural Hair Group – Las Vegas, NV

We are a natural hair group based in the exciting city of Las Vegas, NV.  Our mission is to connect  individuals in the natural hair community with each other and resources through networking, education, and social gatherings in order to access the tools necessary to successfully embrace, love, and celebrate their natural tresses.  We strive to be the resource for all things related to healthy hair, mind, body, and soul.  Whether your natural hair is wavy, curly, coiled, tightly coiled, or you are transitioning from processed hair we are here to support you along your natural hair journey.

Be A Fab U: Embrace Your Scars, Flaws and All

A Fab U 2Each time I am given an opportunity to share my story, I am reminded why I show my scars.  Join me tomorrow, Tuesday, March 25th at 8:00 pm with host Eboni Nicole on A Fab U Radio.  We have all experienced something that may have left us with physical or emotional wounds.  “I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”  Your past doesn’t have to keep you from living the life that you deserve, Be A Fab U.  When I understood what I had gone through, I was able to take control of rewriting my future.  The journey to embracing my scars, flaws and all was not an easy feat but it has been worth it.  I am still growing, learning and healing daily.  Thank you for joining me along my journey and feel free to call in during the show.  I will be answering your questions.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.christiantees.storenvy.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Free Is Too Expensive

FreeIn business, everyone wants to find a way to cut cost, increase profits and grow. When I first got started, I didn’t have tons of money saved up to invest, as a matter of fact, I didn’t have any savings. However, I never expected to get anything from anyone for free because I always knew that free had a cost. I was already limited on time, resources and ideas so what I had I knew it all had to go back into my own business. Free comes with a price tag, expectations and an underlying commitment whether spoken or not.  Somewhere down the line a cost will be paid whether it’s in time or quality.

Time

As a mother of 5, my time is always limited. If I have time to give away then chances are my time with my children or my business is being sacrificed. When ever I needed a babysitter, a ride, a design or anything, I made sure to pay for the services that were being rendered. When I needed to run errands, I caught the bus. When I couldn’t rely on the bus, I would ask for a ride but I always made sure to compensate those who assisted me. Why? Because I didn’t want to feel obligated to do anything later on down the road that would create a sacrifice that I couldn’t afford. See if I didn’t pay my friend or sister, then eventually I would have to return the favor which would ultimately cost me some time.  How much value do you put on your time or the time of others?

Quality

I knew that eventually I wanted to grow and develop my brand into something bigger, providing Branding, Marketing and PR services. And let’s just face it, you can’t barter and negotiate with quality. I wanted to put out the best representation of my company at all times. Sacrificing quality can be expensive and can cost you business.  So I avoided the FREE services at all cost, let’s face it the only person you can guarantee free quality work from is yourself.  The focus should be on creating mutual benefits from all parties involved, creating win-win situations can be a lot more rewarding than FREE.  When win-win situations are created, the expectations or sacrifices that each party will make are discussed up front.

Recently someone volunteered to do something for me for FREE. Let’s just say I am still waiting on it.  FREE has a price. You may not pay now but you will pay.  “Starve to create something new. But never starve your brand.” ~ Marc Ecko Unlabel

No Boiz Allowed: Crown Me Queen

Crown Me QueenMarch is recognized as Women’s History month.  What better way to celebrate than by being surrounded by Women from all different backgrounds, skills, passion and inspiration.

In celebration of No Boiz Allowed’s 3 Year Anniversary, the online blogazine has partnered with Black Girls Inspired to present The Crown Me Queen Luncheon; a one day of  powerful networking designed to gather all women, young and seasoned, who are career driven and life lovers to celebrate all facets of being a woman. The goal of the luncheon is to empower the mind, strengthen the skill and polish every womans imperfections.

At Crown Me Queen, we will share best practices, stories of success and experiences both personal and professional with a wider awareness of political, social and economic causes in order to help each woman reach her full potential in life. Our panel of speakers includes a variety of successful women from all genres of business and life.

KEYNOTE SPEAKERS TOPICS:

The Self-Esteem Queen: How To Remain True To Yourself And Allow Your Individuatlity To Shine In A World That’s Telling You How You Should Be

The Business Queen: 5 Business Strategies Every Woman Must Master

The Selfless Queen: The Importance Of Women Building One Another Up, Supporting Each Other And Celebrating One Another

If you are in the Las Vegas, NV area and want to be inspired, uplifted and pushed beyond the limits that you have set for yourself, then join us.  The Crown Me Queen Luncheon will be held inside of Railhead located at the Boulder Station Hotel/Casino. Doors will open at 11:45am but will begin on time at 12NOON and end at 3PM. Dress the part by being comfortable in what makes you exactly who you are. Come prepared to Celebrate the 3 Year Success of No Boiz Allowed and have fun with the hosts of the day, Black Girls Inspired.

Tickets are $25 per guest and includes a buffet style lunch, gift bags for the first 50 guest, networking opportunitues and also the chance to win prizes. Purchase your ticket today to ensure you are one of the 50 to receive a gift a bag and I hope to see you there.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.christiantees.storenvy.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

#LoveMeFirst: A decision to continue to love, forgive and heal

Earnes Pugh You Are So BeautifulValentine’s Day comes the same time every year. It’s met with open arms from those who are married or in a relationship. However, for some single’s it’s just a reminder of their singleness. Last week, I hosted a #LoveMeFirst chat with Gospel Recording Artist Earnest Pugh and moderated by Pamela King, the founder of Still Dating My Spouse and Sol Search. I have always loved Valentine’s Day and my status has never been the deciding factor. My very first Valentine was my father and he did a great job at making me feel loved year round.

One of the questions asked during the chat brought up the topic of how a person is raised affects the way they love. Question: How does one get over loving from their understanding or by what they were raised by? Shedding what has been taught or learned is a process. While my father was amazing at demonstrating love, my mother not so much. When I realized that the type of love my mother had given was the type of love I was receiving in my relationships, I had to do the work. Praying, reading and meditating on scripture was where I started. This was one of the first decisions made to #LoveMeFirst.

Another question we discussed was, “Do you believe the way you love yourself can affect the way you love others?” Not loving yourself will attract people into your life that do not mean you any good. Our moderator let us know that if we don’t love our self we will take anything. Though Valentine’s Day has come and gone and the chocolate hearts and bears are now on sale make sure you are not discounting the love that you give or receive. Loving yourself first, allows you to love others better. And in the words of Earnest Pugh: “True love is withholding nothing from your mate and expecting nothing in return”.

Make sure you download Earnest Pugh’s latest single “Your Are So Beautiful”, now available.

Search the #LoveMeFirst hashtag, there is something for everyone.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.christiantees.storenvy.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Erica Campbell: Help {Video}

I love this song and the video! The words are the very sentiments of my heart right now.  Erica Campbell did an excellent job and I love how she included her daughter Krista.  She is definitely training her up.

Lyrics:  “Said I do, but to tell the truth sometimes I don’t…I need a lifeline right now 911 won’t do, my backs against the wall now, done all that I could do….Help, help, Lord I need your help.”

[SPONSORED] BEDSIDER.ORG: Does Birth Control Lead To Sex?

Note: This post is sponsored by Bedsider. All opinions are my own.

Does birth control lead to sex?  I think my mom would say yes.  Birth control was that taboo topic in my household growing up.  In fact, it was never discussed; no birds and no bees.  I think my mother felt that if she mentioned sex or even birth control then some kind of way she was encouraging it.  I think it made me even more curious and less informed.

And then came high school…Catholic high school.  Unless I just never paid attention, I don’t recall birth control being discussed at all.  There was this underlying message that we didn’t need birth control or to even discuss it because we weren’t having sex.  However, I do remember quite a few babies being born.

My unplanned family began growing immediately after college.  I soon learned what wasn’t birth control and what was.  Let’s just say that the rhythm method and breastfeeding should never be considered forms of birth control.  I breastfed all of my children but I remember oh so well, when I found out I was pregnant with my son.  I had come down with what I thought was the stomach flu and I was concerned I would not be able to breastfeed my daughter until I got better.  Well the stomach flu doesn’t last 9 months, I was in fact pregnant.

Birth control doesn’t lead to more sex.  It leads to a greater sense of responsibility and allows for planning.  With tools and information from organizations like Bedsider available, making the decision about what type of birth control is best for you is now easier.  I also feel more informed and prepared to have the conversation with my children when the time comes.  Though it may be awkward at first, I know that it is necessary.

What are your thoughts on birth control?  Abstinence? Are you having this discussion with your teens and young adults?  If you do not know how to approach this topic, I encourage you to visit Bedsider.

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About Bedsider:

Bedsider.org (Bedsider) is an online birth control support network for women 18-29 operated by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, a private non-profit organization. Bedsider is not funded by pharmaceutical companies. Or the government. Bedsider is totally independent and the info on it is honest and unbiased.  Fact: Seven in 10 pregnancies among unmarried women 18-29 are described by women themselves as unplanned.

Mary Mary Season 3 Starts February 27th

 

 

Mary Mary Season 3The countdown to Mary Mary Season 3 has begun.  The gospel singing duo will return to WeTV on Thursday, February 27th @ 9pm Est.  We have definitely been witness to some ups and downs while anticipating the new season.  From Tina Campbell discussing the infidelity of her husband, the death of their father and Erica Campbell launching her solo career, these two sisters and their families have gone through a lot.  It will be interesting to see how they hold it all together behind the scenes when their faith is tested.  Watch the preview.  Will you be tuning in?