The Life You Want: Oprah I Had An Aha Moment

Rhachelle Nicol' and Curly Lox

If you recall, last year I had the opportunity to attend Oprah Winfrey’s The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA as press. Over the course of that weekend, the attendees were challenged to find one thing that they could do daily for the next year in order to live the life they want. I thought I would tackle this challenge by intentionally waking up each day and doing something that would push me closer to my goal; sending an email, returning a call, etc. But I soon realized that my efforts were not focused enough on one area/thing in my life that I wanted to change. I was seeing results but some days I was putting forth less effort and just going through the motions.

But I soon realized that even though I wasn’t clear on my approach I was still being guided in the right direction. Last year, I made up in my mind that I was relocating back to California. I planned to live with my sister for at least a year, work, save money and build my business. Well on a larger scale that was/is my one thing that I am doing daily. Daily I am making an effort to blend 3 families (a friend of mine accepted the challenge). We are three single mothers choosing to create our own village, support each others visions and build our businesses, together. Can you imagine 3 women ages 36-40 under one roof, raising a total of 8 children? It can get crazy at times but we always remember our “why?”

We attend church together, prepare meals together and we push one another to go after our dreams. “I am not my sister’s keeper. I am my sister.” My season of the “Ruth and Naomi” relationship. I am surrounded by those that not only give me a list of things I “should” do but take it further and say come with me and I will show. “And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:” Ruth 1:16

I am so excited about this season of my life! And I can’t wait to share more with you about the challenges and victories of blending 3 families and building 3 businesses.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Wellness Wednesday: Choose You

Vallejo Times Herald photo“As you become more successful and further down the road of purpose, more opportunities will come your way. It doesn’t get easier to decide between each one but the wisdom gained along the way makes it easier to know which one(s) are best for YOU.  Choose you” ~ Rhachelle Nicol’

God Sings Through Me

God Sings Through Me oversized teeRN Brand recently released its latest addition to the inspirational collection of Christian t-shirts.  The God Sings Through Me oversized tee for women and dark heather gray v-neck for me began shipping to the public Stellar Awards weekend.

I had been wanting to create a design with God Sings Through Me but the concept just never came together in my head.  I had recently collaborated with Gospel Central’s Michael Stewart, designing the Gospel Central logo and the next thing I knew, I had a concept for the God Sings Through Me shirt.  The words God Sings Through Me were inspired by my late cousin Kimberly Walton.  She loved to sing.

You can now order your own by visiting www.christiantees.storenvy.com

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Tina Campbell: “It’s Personal” Debut Solo Album Set To Release

Available online May 7th

Available online May 7th

Tina Campbell is gearing up to release her debut solo album “It’s Personal” and memoir “I Need A Day To Pray” on the same day. Tina Campbell, Grammy award winning gospel artist and WEtv Reality star of Mary Mary, is set to release her highly anticipated album and memoir May 7th.

If you have been watching this season of WEtv’s Mary Mary Reality show, you have heard a portion of Tina Campbell’s testimony of forgiveness after infidelity.  She also talks about while going through her process of healing how she began to journal and how the music began to be poured into her.  One of my favorite interviews that she did on the show is with WBLS. Call me bias because she is wearing a “My Scars” tee during the interview but her transparency is a blessing.  You can listen to the full WBLS interview.

“It’s Personal” will feature the current inspirational single “Destiny”.  “I’ve got a

Available May 7th

Available May 7th

destination in my view. The road may be bumpy getting there but I’m pressing through.  I will enjoy this journey no matter come what may. I’ll become better, and stronger and wiser every day. I’ve got a vision and a purpose, a divine destiny.  It may not look like it right now but faith ain’t what I see.  It is the things I hope for believing that it will come and that no matter how long it takes. I know God’s will shall be done.”  I’ve been listening to this song since last year when I saw a video of her performing it live.

I know that I will be grabbing my copy of both “It’s Personal” and “I Need A Day To Pray”.  So keep your eye out for a review coming soon.  Tina Campbell the process of your healing is so familiar to me. “I show my scars so that others know they can heal”. I wrote, I prayed, I cried, I questioned but in the midst of it all He was giving me a vision for my purpose, Destiny. Though “It’s personal” we understand that our testimonies are not for us but to bring hope to a lost and dying world. Thank you for showing your scars to the world!

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

As Seen On TV

As Seen On TV

Who’s Going To Show Their Scars

Who’s going to show their scars with me on this Thursday evening, April 2nd when Tina Campbell shows hers scars on WeTVs Mary Mary reality show? #MyScars

We are almost half way through Season 4 of WEtvs Mary Mary Reality Show starring Multi-Grammy and Stellar Award winners Tina Campbell and Erica Campbell . If you have been tuning in since the beginning of the season, you may have seen the “My Scars” tee on your tv.

Tina Campbell has allowed us viewers to witness vulnerable issues within her marriage while she fought for love. We couldn’t be more excited. Tina Campbell’s testimony and transparency truly captures the essence of the message “I show my scars so that others know they can heal”.  We say, “Tina keep showing your scars.  Someone needs to see your scars.” What did you think about the show?

“Find a way to tell your story; each time you tell your story it heals a part of you.”  ~ Oprah

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

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Progress Is The Goal

I have been writing this blog in my head for the past few months. At first, I was beating myself up for not writing as much as I had been. But with progress being the goal, I must admit that I have made a lot of progress in other areas of my life. On December 23, 2014 I finally made moving back home to California a reality. Though it still feels like I’m just on an extended vacation, I snap out of it every Monday while I sit in traffic headed to work. Yes, in that 2 month time period, I received 3 job offers. Not to mention that during my first week of work my boss informed me he was signing me up for B-school with Marie Forleo.

My Scars Chat - SFSU

My Scars Chat – SFSU

And if relocating and starting a new job isn’t enough progress, I was also planning the first My Scars Chat of 2015. I was so honored this past Wednesday to be back on the campus of my Alma Mater, San Francisco State University, along with my undergraduate chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc and host a My Scars Chat with young women and men that were eager to learn and discuss the impact of domestic violence. And they showed their scars! They opened up and discussed some of their life experiences. They talked about the concerns they had for friends and I am confident that they left empowered and will continue to show their scars so that others know they can heal.

So no I have not been vacationing and over-indulging in free time but progressing forward. I have clients that I am also working with and bringing their brand messages to life through t-shirts. One thing is for certain I am content with where I am and I am going to find a way to celebrate myself very soon. I am learning not to be so hard on myself. Every seed that I plant is not going to blossom overnight but if I keep taking steps towards reaching my goals one day they will be achieved. “The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”

Erica Campbell Showing Her Scars

Erica Campbell Showing Her Scars

And then there is that moment when you receive a text from a friend of a picture that she saw on Instagram of one of your favorite gospel singers and half of Mary Mary, wearing a My Scars shirt. Then you’re told by your Sorority sister that Tina Campbell wore hers on the Mary Mary reality show and you catch the promo clip. It reinforced that fact that, I may not be “busy” (doing stuff just to pass the time) but I am definitely making progress. What goals have you set? What are you doing to achieve them? Are you making progress? Do you need an accountability partner? I’m listening!

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Protecting My Peace And Joy

love joy and peaceThe past few weeks have been full of joy. I was on a natural high from everything that was happening and lining up in my life. There was a peace that filled my heart, letting me know that I am where I need to be right now. I gave up the stress of worrying about my future while consciously making day to day decisions to live the life I desire. So what happened?

The reality of the world we live in hit me like a ton of bricks. I awaited for the news of Darren Wilson’s indictment for the murder of Mike Brown like most of the world. I would like to say I was surprised by the announcement that there would be no indictment, but I wasn’t. I wasn’t. And that’s what hurts. Because if I were surprised then there would be more hope than fear for the lives of my 4 boys that will one day be young men.

I haven’t made many comments about the outcome or even the current protest. I had a long conversation with a friend of mine about how I was feeling. My faith was tested, my peace was not still and my joy hadn’t come in the morning. I couldn’t understand the thoughts of Darren Wilson’s supporters. I said, “They can’t believe in and pray to the same God that I do. And how much longer do we [African Americans] have to keep praying before things change? Surely someone’s prayer was answered and they were given some mandate or instructions as to what to do.” His response was, “All we can do is make sure that we do what we were sent here to do”. And while I want to do and be all that I was sent here for, his response still wasn’t enough. But the more I began to dwell on it, the more I was robbed of my peace and joy.

One thing is for sure, you have to protect your peace and joy. I understand now more than ever the importance of a daily spiritual practice. The power of meditation and visualizing your peaace, joy and happiness and literally pulling it into your day. And sometimes you just have to still away, shut down and silence all the noise until your sould is replenished. So while I hold my peace, please know that I am striving to do all that I know to do in my corner of this world to bring change.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

The London Sessions: New Music From Mary J. Blige

*Note: I participated in the Mary J Blige The London Sessions album review program as a member of bLink Marketing Network. I was provided a free album to review but all opinions are my own.

Mary J. Blige has been singing the soundtrack to my life for over 20 years. I saw Mary J. Blige in July during the Essence Festival and her performance served as a reminder of why she is the Queen. She took us all the way back to the 411 and I was on my feet for her entire performance. She sounded amazing and looked amazing. It’s hard to imagine that 3 months ago there was no album. But after her Essence Festival performance, I would have caught a flight to London and gone straight to the studio also.

The London Sessions is Mary J. Blige’s latest album set to be released on December 2, 2014. The London Sessions bring a new sound for Mary but definitely full of the same energy and heart that she has continued to bring to every album. Mary J. Blige collaborated with an amazing group of writers, singers and producers while in London to deliver such an album with a global perspective in mind. I have a few favorites but Whole D@#! Year and Long Hard Look are bringing it for me.

I am a fan of Mary J. Blige’s classic R&B and Hip-Hop sound but this sound she is bringing in The London Sessions is quite refreshing. I think Mary ran off to London with my journal because she definitely picked right back up from where the soundtrack of my life had ended. And this song gives me life. We have watched Mary grow right before our eyes as an artist and in her personal life. No matter what she was going through, she was still bringing us music to keep us moving. I am glad to see her at this place in her life, happy and expressing herself freely through her music. You can pre-order the Album on iTunes and Amazon. You can also check out the trailer for The London Sessions and get an idea about the inspiration behind the album.

For more information visit the Official Mary J Blige website, follow Mary J. Blige on twitter and click like on the Mary J. Blige Facebook fan page to stay up to date with the latest Mary J. Blige The London Sessions news.

I participated in the Mary J Blige The London Sessions album review program as a member of bLink Marketing Network. I was provided a free album to review but all opinions are my own.

What Will You Do For The Rest of Your Life to Live The Life You Want?

When I was a little girl, my father had an amazing dream for my life.  I would grow up, go to medical school and become a doctor.  I was actually on that path for most of my life.  As an undergraduate, I majored in Biology then soon realized I enjoyed Psychology more and switched.  But I was still determined to make my father proud.  I received my Bachelors in Clinical Psychology then returned a year later to puruse a 2nd Bachelors in Biology.  I was doing all that was necessary to live the life that my father desired for me.  I attended classes 2-3 times per week, Organic Chemistry, Physics, Biology, labs, internships, etc.  I did it all.  I was committed to the process that was necessary to become a doctor.  However, I soon realized that I wasn’t living the life I desired or pursuing my dreams and goals.  I don’t even think I had a dream or goal of my own.  The closest thing in my life that reasonabled anything I enjoyed was the part-time job I had working for a bank.

My sophmore year in college I took on a part-time job working at a bank.  After 9 months as a teller, I was promoted to Lead Teller.  I enjoyed the customer interactions, sales and marketing, training new hires, preparing for audits and even the stress.  You see the job that I had was feeding a desire that I had yet to discover.  I stayed in banking for 10 years.  And during those 10 years, I started a couple of businesses.  I was a tutor.  I marketed and promoted my services and had a great clientele.  I also started a monthly newsletter.  I sold ad spaces in the newsletter, interviewed local residents and shared words of inspiration.  I hope you see what I am getting at.  Even when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, life was speaking and guiding me.  Now more than ever I am sure of what I want to do with my life and the life I want.

Life You Want Work

 

A little over a week ago, I attended Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA.  I really didn’t know what to expect from the weekend.  I knew that I had Oprah on my vision board and a goal of mine was finally happening.  I also knew that I was ready to live the life I want but not sure on how to do it.  Well the weekend was everything that I needed and more.  Oprah had us do an assignment on Saturday which required us to “See your life today”.  We had to divide our lives into what is important to us.  Once you determined what was important to you, you divided the circle up into those areas by percentage.  Then came the hard part, you had to determine how satisfied you were with each area.  We used happy faces, solemn faces and sad faces.  I soon realized that there were a lot of areas in my life that I am not happy with.  However, I also realized that this weekend was all about giving me the tools to change that.  Oprah challenged us to do something daily for the next 365 days in order to live the life you want.  So I am going to share with you all some of things that I will be doing in order to live the life I want.  By sharing, I am also hoping that you all will also hold me accountable, check in with me by leaving a comment on my post and/or take this challenge with me.  If you are going to take the challenge with me, use the hashtag #OneThingDaily when sharing what you are doing.

So here it goes.  I have been working on marketing strategies for the past few weeks.  I recently had an “aha moment” and realized I can apply the same technique from a marketing strategy to a “life strategy”. When working on a marketing strategy, you focus your efforts on a few areas that all support the overall marketing goal.  If the marketing goal is expanding your online reach, one might focus their attention on their social media platforms and what they can do on each platform to encourage growth.  For example, posting 3-4 pictures on instagram daily using specific hashtags to reach your audience, creating and scheduling 20 tweets to cycle daily on your twitter account, writing 3 post or more on your website per week, recording YouTube videos, etc.  All of these activities combined together can help achieve the ultimate goal of expanding your reach.

So here is my #OneThingDaily list of things that I will incorporate into my life some won’t be daily but have regular time and attention given.

-Family – I love spending time with my family and will continue creating memories with my children.

-Faith – Oprah and Iyanla spoke about having a daily spiritual practice.  I will continue to pray, read my Bible and meditate daily.

-Workout – I finally think it’s time to start going to the gym.  Especially since there are a few more red carpets that I want to work in the near future.

-Writing – I will be writing/blogging a lot more regularly on my site (3 times per week Lord willing) and for the local newspaper that I write for.  My goal is to strengthen the gift that God has given me.

-Radio Host – Yes, I am officially the Co-Host on Gospel Central Blog Talk Radio.  I hope to share my voice and message with you on a regular weekly basis along with my co-host.

-Knowledge – I will be reading more and I am also looking into taking a class or two.

-Multiple Streams of Income – I am going to be working even harder on generating an increased income through all of my streams.

-Travel – I am getting my passport updated.  I am going to be planning a lot more trips for business and for the experience.  I want to see the world and capture the moments in words and pictures.

-Home – To be continued…I am thinking a big move may be in my future.  But for now, I am settled and content with where I am but I can see my future home more clearer now than ever.

-Shine – I am going to allow the true essence of me to shine brighter than ever.

The key to living the life you desire is being persistent, intentional and conscious while pursuing your dreams and goals.  What are you going to do daily?

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

 

 

SoulCycle: SOUL15 at Oprah’s Life You Want Tour Took Me There in 15 Minutes

Oprah's Life You Want Tour - Soul15

So I am still on a natural high since attending Oprah’s Life You Want Weekend tour in San Jose, CA last weekend.  But out of all the things that keep coming to mind, SOUL15 is at the top of the list.  I know I have mentioned it time and time again that I do not work out and have not since highschool circa 199? (I am not telling ya’ll my age).  But SOUL15 is definitely going to make me rethink this and maybe one day I will be a professional runner in some sneakers, on a track, in gym clothes.  Okay I might be pushing it a little but this workout moved me like never before.  As a matter of fact, before I knew it, I was in tears.  Yes you read that right.  I was working out, marching it out, doing some arm rolls and squats when I realized the tears were falling and I couldn’t do anything to stop them.

SoulCycle Instructor, Angela Davis and Senior Master Instructor, Stacey Griffith incorporated a Sunday morning message into the workout that spoke to me.  The message reaffirmed the physical and spritual journey that I am on to be all that God has called me to be.  As I looked around at those sitting closest to me, I realized that I was not the only one that felt a deep spiritual breakthrough during the workout.  I’m going to need a 15 minute video of this workout stat.  I’m ready to go from glory to glory and faith to faith with mind, BODY and soul fully onboard in 2015.

SoulCycle currently operates 30 locations and is looking to have 60 locations by 2016. I hope one of those locations is in Las Vegas, NV.  Sin City needs you!

SoulCycle

 

More About SOUL15:

SoulCycle has created SOUL15, an innovative exercise experience customized for Oprah’s The Life You Want Tour.  SOUL15 is a 15-minute cardio-dance experience inspired by a traditional SoulCycle Class.  SoulCycle Instructor, Angela Davis and Senior Master Instructor, Stacey Griffith, lead an inspirational exercise routine designed to help people at all levels of fitness find joy in exercise.  The SOUL15 segment on Oprah’s The Life You Want Tour integrates LED light bracelets synched to music in a dark arena setting, which illuminate the stadium with every arm movement.  True to a signature SoulCycle class experience, participants move together as a pack to the rhythm of the music and are encouraged to set an intention for their experience and clear away the physical and emotional obstacles that are holding them back.