We suffer losses in so many aspects of life. But rarely do we look at our losses as gains. When we lose our job, we don’t think about the opportunity that we had to gather information and the experience gained. I am learning that the faster I can shift my perspective and look at my situation or circumstances in a different light, the faster that things begin to come together. I understand that sometimes we don’t know just what to feel or how to respond. We become numb, in order to cope with the pain, loss or hurt; we have a hard time drawing connections and making decisions.
Our losses can actually be clues to get us to where we were meant to be. I have suffered many losses, but the greater my losses, the greater my gain.
Depression is the 4th stage of the grieving process. We will all experience depression at one point, but the key is not allowing ourselves to stay in that place.
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Let’s Make a Deal is an old game show that I remember watching. The audience would bring random things with them in hopes of having that one item that the host would ask for. If they had that one particular item, they would have a chance to “make a deal”. The contestant would then play a game, choosing behind different doors, and then came the hard part. They would be able to trade what they had won for the hopes of something better without being able to see it first. Some contestants traded trips, televisions, furniture and more for the chance to win something even better or bigger. In so many cases, better was in fact worse. Contestants would end up with a year supply of cat food or other random gag prizes.
How many times have you said, “God if you get me out of this I will do better”? Or, “If you bless me with this job, I will pay my tithes”? We find ourselves bargaining when we feel as though God has not given us the desired outcome. Sometimes God doesn’t give us what we want, he gives us what we need. We have bargained so long, that we have missed out on some of the answers that we have been given that would lead us to our desires. When I asked God to make a way to provide for my family, HE didn’t send money but an idea. I listened and he has made a way. The idea became a written vision and the vision has turned into tangible items.
Bargaining is in fact the third stage of the grieving process. We desire that pain to be taken away by any means.
“If tears could build a stairway and memories were a lane,We would walk all the way to Heaven, to bring you home again.” – Anonymous